A blended family 
is created when a new relationship is formed by marriage, in which kids from former relationships are included. There are basically different compositions of blended families, as they may differ from one another depending on whom the children belong to. They may belong to either the husband or wife, by a previous marriage.
For children
, it may become extremely difficult to give the place of their real parent to someone else, while stepparents may also have trouble in accepting the children and loving them as real parents should.
If there are new siblings that have to be accepted too, the situation could become more complex and difficult to manage. Children of both parents
belonging to different marriages may experience emotions such as being highly upset, angry and jealous at times. A sense of competition may also take place among the step siblings.
It is very important to work on the new relationship and the complexities that come along with it, if one wants to have a loving family and healthy relationships among one another. Following are ways on how to iron out the difficulties:
Being a parent who has to work on the relationship
with a stepchild, it will be highly essential to spend some time with the children
. Efforts should be made to spend time alone with the child, so that both can develop a comfort level and a bond of trust. You can do this by reassuring them that you care about them and want them to be a part of your life. For example, make a point to know their interests and likes, and arrange something special for them, like taking them out to their favorite restaurant.
Try to have long conversations with them, where you would listen to them and encourage them to express their feelings. This would show that you are concerned about all that is happening in their life. Try not to be dominating over them by forcing them to call you as "mom" or "dad".
Do not show feelings of resentment towards the ex-spouse who would be their parent.
This would only take a negative toll over the relationship. Give them time to adjust to the change that has taken place, and in the meantime, try creating a bond of love and respect with them.
By Amy M Chan
is created when a new relationship is formed by marriage, in which kids from former relationships are included. There are basically different compositions of blended families, as they may differ from one another depending on whom the children belong to. They may belong to either the husband or wife, by a previous marriage.For children
, it may become extremely difficult to give the place of their real parent to someone else, while stepparents may also have trouble in accepting the children and loving them as real parents should.If there are new siblings that have to be accepted too, the situation could become more complex and difficult to manage. Children of both parents
belonging to different marriages may experience emotions such as being highly upset, angry and jealous at times. A sense of competition may also take place among the step siblings.It is very important to work on the new relationship and the complexities that come along with it, if one wants to have a loving family and healthy relationships among one another. Following are ways on how to iron out the difficulties:
Being a parent who has to work on the relationship
with a stepchild, it will be highly essential to spend some time with the children. Efforts should be made to spend time alone with the child, so that both can develop a comfort level and a bond of trust. You can do this by reassuring them that you care about them and want them to be a part of your life. For example, make a point to know their interests and likes, and arrange something special for them, like taking them out to their favorite restaurant.Try to have long conversations with them, where you would listen to them and encourage them to express their feelings. This would show that you are concerned about all that is happening in their life. Try not to be dominating over them by forcing them to call you as "mom" or "dad".
Do not show feelings of resentment towards the ex-spouse who would be their parent.
This would only take a negative toll over the relationship. Give them time to adjust to the change that has taken place, and in the meantime, try creating a bond of love and respect with them.By Amy M Chan
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