My wife and I lived several hours away from our families
whenever we had our first child, and this was an extremely stressful time for the both of us. My wife and I were planning on moving back home, as soon as she finished up with her schooling. However the fact remained that she had become pregnant at the worst possible time, and we were stuck living in a tiny apartment all throughout her pregnancy in the first several months after our daughter was born. This definitely tested the patience we had for each other and it was probably the biggest test our marriage had ever faced, even up until this day almost 15 years later.
Both of us were extremely strong willed people and we were both very dependent. This is probably what drew us to each other in the beginning, but it was also almost our undoing as well, as we were not the type of couple who were willing to accept help. Long before our baby was born, both of our parents
suggested that they would drive up to see us, to help take care of the baby and give us a break. We of course continued to decline these invitations throughout the last couple of weeks before my daughter was born. My wife and I thought that we were going to be able to handle things ourselves, even though I was working full-time and she was still trying to finish up her schooling. Our parents continued to warn us, but we wanted to hear none of it.
Once my daughter was actually born, we started to realize right off the bat that we were probably going to need our parents tell to get us through the first few weeks. Our daughter was colicky, and she would never sleep through the night. Most of the time I was barely getting more than an hour sleep before I had to head off to work. After a week, we begged my parents to come up and give us a hand. They were like angels, and a lifesaver for us. My parentsstayed for well over two weeks and really helped us out immeasurably.
Whenever they left, then my wife's parents came and helped us as well. After that we learned to be humble and accept help whenever people offered it, and this is absolutely the best advice I can give to any new parents. Learn to accept help from those who are offering it, because raising a baby is a difficult thing, and refusing help is something I assure you that you'll regret in the future.
By William Jason
whenever we had our first child, and this was an extremely stressful time for the both of us. My wife and I were planning on moving back home, as soon as she finished up with her schooling. However the fact remained that she had become pregnant at the worst possible time, and we were stuck living in a tiny apartment all throughout her pregnancy in the first several months after our daughter was born. This definitely tested the patience we had for each other and it was probably the biggest test our marriage had ever faced, even up until this day almost 15 years later.Both of us were extremely strong willed people and we were both very dependent. This is probably what drew us to each other in the beginning, but it was also almost our undoing as well, as we were not the type of couple who were willing to accept help. Long before our baby was born, both of our parents
suggested that they would drive up to see us, to help take care of the baby and give us a break. We of course continued to decline these invitations throughout the last couple of weeks before my daughter was born. My wife and I thought that we were going to be able to handle things ourselves, even though I was working full-time and she was still trying to finish up her schooling. Our parents continued to warn us, but we wanted to hear none of it.Once my daughter was actually born, we started to realize right off the bat that we were probably going to need our parents tell to get us through the first few weeks. Our daughter was colicky, and she would never sleep through the night. Most of the time I was barely getting more than an hour sleep before I had to head off to work. After a week, we begged my parents to come up and give us a hand. They were like angels, and a lifesaver for us. My parents
stayed for well over two weeks and really helped us out immeasurably. Whenever they left, then my wife's parents came and helped us as well. After that we learned to be humble and accept help whenever people offered it, and this is absolutely the best advice I can give to any new parents. Learn to accept help from those who are offering it, because raising a baby is a difficult thing, and refusing help is something I assure you that you'll regret in the future.
By William Jason
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