There is no doubt at all in my mind that many of the problems associated with teens' attitude 
is the fault of the media. They are surrounded by talent shows where young people have made it and are guaranteed success and money. It is easy and there is no need to study, work hard or even bother getting a proper job. It is all just going to happen. Now, trying to change attitude like that is not going to be an easy task.
The first strategy
to adopt is to stop worrying about the credibility gap. This is the gap between your view of the world where hard work, and realistic expectations have been your guiding principles and have paid off handsomely. The teen's world view is completely different and no matter how persuasive your arguments are, you are not going to get him to change attitude by launching into logical, practical and realistic examples!
The second strategy is to ignore the attitude and concentrate on trying to change some behavior instead. You could concentrate on getting him to do homework and enforcing a consequence like a ban on media time, until he does it. Just take the line
that we all have responsibilities and homework happens to be one of his.
You could also mention that this happens to be one of the house rules which means that he has to comply if he wants to live in the family home.
I know one parent who told her teen that unless she saw him apply for three jobs, there was no way that he could drive the family car. This worked because he not only applied for three jobs but actually did get a job.
The third strategy is to find ways to let him know that you are there to listen and this can be done in a calmer moment when all the fighting and arguing has stopped, at least temporarily. We can still assure them of our support but also remind them of the limits and, the house rules which are there for their health and safety above all. We need to choose our moment here because it could end up with being yelled at or verbally abused.
These then are just three simple strategies
to help you to get your teen to change attitude. I think that avoiding the power struggle and maintaining your stance is probably the best advice there is. After all, your teen has heard all that before. It is time to take a fresh approach with the three strategies I have mentioned above.
We have seen that even the most difficult teen behavior and getting them to change attitude is possible. Why not find out some more great tips from a child psychologist who has been in the game for over twenty years and take advantage of his experience?
is the fault of the media. They are surrounded by talent shows where young people have made it and are guaranteed success and money. It is easy and there is no need to study, work hard or even bother getting a proper job. It is all just going to happen. Now, trying to change attitude like that is not going to be an easy task.The first strategy
to adopt is to stop worrying about the credibility gap. This is the gap between your view of the world where hard work, and realistic expectations have been your guiding principles and have paid off handsomely. The teen's world view is completely different and no matter how persuasive your arguments are, you are not going to get him to change attitude by launching into logical, practical and realistic examples!The second strategy is to ignore the attitude and concentrate on trying to change some behavior instead. You could concentrate on getting him to do homework and enforcing a consequence like a ban on media time, until he does it. Just take the line
that we all have responsibilities and homework happens to be one of his. You could also mention that this happens to be one of the house rules which means that he has to comply if he wants to live in the family home.
I know one parent who told her teen that unless she saw him apply for three jobs, there was no way that he could drive the family car. This worked because he not only applied for three jobs but actually did get a job.
The third strategy is to find ways to let him know that you are there to listen and this can be done in a calmer moment when all the fighting and arguing has stopped, at least temporarily. We can still assure them of our support but also remind them of the limits and, the house rules which are there for their health and safety above all. We need to choose our moment here because it could end up with being yelled at or verbally abused.
These then are just three simple strategies
to help you to get your teen to change attitude. I think that avoiding the power struggle and maintaining your stance is probably the best advice there is. After all, your teen has heard all that before. It is time to take a fresh approach with the three strategies I have mentioned above.We have seen that even the most difficult teen behavior and getting them to change attitude is possible. Why not find out some more great tips from a child psychologist who has been in the game for over twenty years and take advantage of his experience?
Tearing your hair out because of outbursts, lying, defiant and aggressive behavior? Experts now tell us that child  behavior modification or simply learning strategies for effective parenting is the best possible way on how to get teens to change attitude. |
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