There are times in life when we all experience a serious injustice, we are perhaps treated badly or dealt with in an unfair way. It can seem reasonable to want to take the moral high ground, but sometimes it can be a sensible move to reflect for a moment and decide if that really is the best option.
Let's look at some of the reasons for relaxing
one's position in order to become the one who is prepared to compromise:
- Sometimes showing a preparedness to compromise can win us a lot of fans, a higher regard in other people's eyes. People will see that we are flexible, generous-hearted and tolerant. That can be a very valuable result from an unfortunate situation.
- Seeing the bigger picture
is often a useful thing to do. Appreciating that when we are hurt, angry or annoyed we are seeing only a small part of the overall situation. There are often many other factors that are relevant to what has happened. Other people may see things very differently than we do. Something that bothers or upsets us may well be seen as trivial to someone else. Taking time to consider the bigger picture can bring a better perspective into a difficult or strained situation and help it heal.
- Being able and prepared to compromise is a good discipline to foster in ourselves. It teaches
us about restraint, understanding, self-control. All the qualities that are important to have as an adult. It is important to remember that life is not just about us. Other people have their own issues, pressures and considerations. Being able to consider other people helps us to become more balanced and less self-centred
.
- Is it worth it? Being outraged and offended may be a reasonable, valid reaction but being completely intransigent can be unnecessary. Okay, someone may have made a mistake but in the grand scheme of things how does this feature on the list of tragedies in our life? Sometimes being able to get over something is important. The relationship may never be the same again but at least being able to move on from the situation is important.
- None of us are perfect. How would we like to
be treated if we were the one who had made a mistake? Reflecting on that question can help us to relax from being quite so harsh and inflexible. Very few people are completely bad. There are often reasons, sometimes unseen, that prompt people to behave in an unacceptable way. Many people have a lot of stress and pressure in their lives. Appreciating that stress can be a significant factor in how people behave can help us to consider how we might have behaved in the same circumstances.
Compromise is an important quality to exercise in adult relationships. We learn that by giving some leeway we often heal situations more effectively, move on quicker and form better, more satisfactory relationships with others. Compromise helps to reduce the stress in our lives as we become calmer and more relaxed about other people and their behaviour. Relationships are able to flow more comfortably as tension is reduced.
Let's look at some of the reasons for relaxing
one's position in order to become the one who is prepared to compromise:- Sometimes showing a preparedness to compromise can win us a lot of fans, a higher regard in other people's eyes. People will see that we are flexible, generous-hearted and tolerant. That can be a very valuable result from an unfortunate situation.
- Seeing the bigger picture
is often a useful thing to do. Appreciating that when we are hurt, angry or annoyed we are seeing only a small part of the overall situation. There are often many other factors that are relevant to what has happened. Other people may see things very differently than we do. Something that bothers or upsets us may well be seen as trivial to someone else. Taking time to consider the bigger picture can bring a better perspective into a difficult or strained situation and help it heal.- Being able and prepared to compromise is a good discipline to foster in ourselves. It teaches
us about restraint, understanding, self-control. All the qualities that are important to have as an adult. It is important to remember that life is not just about us. Other people have their own issues, pressures and considerations. Being able to consider other people helps us to become more balanced and less self-centred.- Is it worth it? Being outraged and offended may be a reasonable, valid reaction but being completely intransigent can be unnecessary. Okay, someone may have made a mistake but in the grand scheme of things how does this feature on the list of tragedies in our life? Sometimes being able to get over something is important. The relationship may never be the same again but at least being able to move on from the situation is important.
- None of us are perfect. How would we like to
be treated if we were the one who had made a mistake? Reflecting on that question can help us to relax from being quite so harsh and inflexible. Very few people are completely bad. There are often reasons, sometimes unseen, that prompt people to behave in an unacceptable way. Many people have a lot of stress and pressure in their lives. Appreciating that stress can be a significant factor in how people behave can help us to consider how we might have behaved in the same circumstances.Compromise is an important quality to exercise in adult relationships. We learn that by giving some leeway we often heal situations more effectively, move on quicker and form better, more satisfactory relationships with others. Compromise helps to reduce the stress in our lives as we become calmer and more relaxed about other people and their behaviour. Relationships are able to flow more comfortably as tension is reduced.
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