Is the Family DOOMED? Part 3

It may be worth while briefly to indicate the various stages or phases of the relationship of parents and children.

1. In the earliest period, parents are for the most part youngish and children are helpless. 
2. In the next stage, parents begin to approach such maturity as they are to attain, while children are half-grown reaching ten or twelve years. This is the term punctuated by an ever-increasing number of "don't."
3. In the third stage parents at last attain such maturity as is to be their own,—years and maturity not being interchangeable terms,—for, despite mounting years some parents remain infantile in mind and vision and conduct. Children now touch the outermost fringe or border of maturity in this time of adolescence, and the stage of friction, whether due to refractory children or to undeflectible parents, begins. Coddling has ended, or ought to have ended, though it may persist in slightly disguised and sometimes wholly nauseous forms. Dependence for the most part is ended, save of course for that economic dependence which does not greatly alter the problem.

The conflict now arises between what might roughly be styled the parental demand of dutifulness and  for justice—justice to the demands of a new self-affirmation, of a crescent self-reliance. And after the storm and fire of clashing, happily there supervenes a still, small period of peace and conciliation unless in the meantime parents have passed, or the conflict have been followed by the disaster of cureless misunderstanding. It may be well to remind some children that it is not really the purpose of their parents to stunt their lives and that the love of parents does not at adolescence, necessarily transform itself into bitter and implacable hostility. To such as survive, parents aging or aged and children maturing or mature, this ofttimes becomes the period most beauteous of all when children at last have ceased to make demands and are bent chiefly upon crowning the aging brows of parents with the wreath of loving-tenderness.

One further reservation it becomes needful to make. I must need limits myself more or less to parental relations as these develop in homes in which it becomes possible for parents consciously to influence the lives of their children, not such in which the whole problem of life revolves around bread-winning. I do not consider the latter type of home a free home. It is verily one of the severest indictments of the social order that in our land as in all lands bread-winning is almost the sole calling of the vast majority of its homes. I do not maintain that all problems are resolved when this problem is ended, but the fixation respectively of parental and filial responsibilities hardly becomes possible under social-industrial conditions which deny leisure and freedom from grinding material concern to its occupants.

The miracle of high nurture of childhood is enacted in countless homes of poverty and stress, but the miracle may not be exacted. It was hard to resist a bitter smile during the days of war, when the millions were bidden to battle for their homes. Under the stress of war-conditions, some degree of sufficiency, rarely of plenty, fell to the lot of the homes of toil and poverty—the customary juxtaposition is not without interest. But now that the war is ended, the last concern of the masters of industry is to maintain the better and juster order of the war days, and the primary purpose seems to be to penalize "the over-rewarded and greedy toilers" of the war-days, selfishly bent upon extorting all the standards of decent living out of industry.

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Is the Family DOOMED? Part 2

Nothing can be more important than to seek to bring to the home some of the responsibilities with which other organisations such as school and church are today burdened. True is the suggestion that church and school have kind of undertaken to do that which the home must largely do. The teacher in church and school may supplement the effort of the parent but cannot and may not be asked to perform the work of parents. 

Another quite obviousthought is that conflicts arise between parents and children not during the time of the child's infancy or early childhood but in the days of adolescence and early adulthood. The real differences come to pass when child and parent meet on terms and conditions which seem to indicate physical and intellectual equality or its approach. Though the processes of parental guidance are not to be postponed until the stage of bodily and mental equivalence has been reached but that the conflicts are not begun until what is or is imagined to be the maturity of the child raises the whole problem of self-determination. The latter is a problem not of infants and juveniles but of the mature and maturing.

Is the Family DOOMED?

One way of looking at the change of attitude toward the problem, the family is doomed. The family is not doomed quite yet, though certain views with respect to the family are, and long ought to have been, extinct. The problem of parental contact need not longer be considered, seeing that the family is on the verge of dissolution, is almost as simple as the proposal of the seven-year-old colored boy in the children's court, in answer to the kindly inquiry of the Judge: "You have heard what your parents have to say about you. Now, what can you say for yourself?" "Mistah Judge, I'se only got dis here to say: I'd be all right if I jes had another set of parents."

For the problem persists and is bound to persist as long as the relationships of the family-home continue. The social changes which have so markedly affected marriage have come over the home. It is as true as it ever was that the private home is the public hope. A nation is what its homes are. With these it rises and falls, and it can rise no higher than the level of its home-life. Marriage, said Goethe, is the origin and summit of civilization. Assuming that the family which is the cellular unit of civilization will survive modern conditions, the question is what burdens can the home be made to assume which properly rest upon it, if it is to remain worth while as well as be saved?

The Important Things Every Man Should Know About The Prostate

Next time you see your father, your uncle, or any older gentleman over age 60 or so, ask them about their prostate. If you know the guy well enough, and he feels comfortable enough around you (some would say too comfortable), he will surely share a whole litany of the common prostate problems that are troubling him, or have troubled him, or will trouble him in the near future. That's because an enlarged prostate, benign prostatic hypertrophy, and even prostate cancer can be in the cards for every man past a certain age.


It's the scary but true fact of getting old as a man. For instance, every man should know that prostate cancer is one of the most common prostate problems out there. It tops the list of cancers that afflict men, happening in nearly as many men, roughly speaking, as breast cancer in women. Prostate cancer doesn't get the press that breast cancer does, however, probably because most men would rather not speak about what's happening down there.

The second thing most men don't, but should know is exactly what that prostate is. A prostate is actually part of a man's sexual organs. Located just below the bladder in a man, wrapped around the urethra, the prostate is about the size of a walnut. Its main job in the birds-and-bees scheme of things is to add fluid to your sperm during ejaculation.

And most of the time, men don't even realize they have a prostate because it's a hidden internal organ, but all men find out quickly what and where their prostate is when they suffer a common prostate problem.

For instance, all men should know that prostate issues aren't just for older men. Men under 50 can get prostatitis, or an extremely painful infection of their prostate. This is a swelling of the prostate that can cause fever, a burning sensation during urination, and fatigue.

And all men over 50 should be aware of their number one most common prostate problem, which is an enlarged prostate, or benign prostatic hypertrophy. This benign, or nonfatal condition, is actually far more common in older men than prostate cancer, which should give some relief to older men when they know it.

Men should all be aware of the symptoms of benign prostatic hypertrophy, such as leaking and dribbling during urination, a weak urine stream, trouble getting started with urination, and even small amounts of blood in the urine.

And though benign prostatic hypertrophy is more common than prostate cancer, men should be aware that the two can go hand in hand. It's not always the case, and many men with an enlarged prostate will never develop into cancer. But it's good to keep your eyes out for both, because they can have similar symptoms.

Subliminal Myths Exposed - Subliminal Messaging Is Not Effortless!

This may be the main fabrication regarding subliminal messaging.

Our lives would probably be vastly different if all it took to make major changes was to play a subliminal messaging album for a few hours - to rewire deeply rooted limiting beliefs, or learn something new. This is a pity, but this simply isn't really the case.

Subliminal messaging works in a far more subtle manner to help you to learn. Rather than teaching you material directly alone it influences the major elements which will affect your ability to learn. By way of example it can:

Sharpen the mind and assist you to acquire new information quickly.

• Assist you to naturally get pleasure from your learning.
• Make sure you remain engaged in your studies and stay enthusiastic and want to work for a long time.
• It will naturally boost your ability to remember information - to store it well, and help you to recall it when you need it.

Arguably you can say that in this way you are able to enhance an individual's ability to efficiently understand things, however it is not possible to get up one day being able to speak another language or becoming able to instantly understand intricate algebra for example.

As opposed to inserting material straight into your brain subliminal audio will re-wire your self beliefs and ways of thinking. It works by very simple rules connected with neuro-linguistic programming and affirmations so helping you to evolve the sorts of traits shared by people who find themselves triumphant in a specific field. This can be anything from acquiring the patterns of thinking shared by those with an excellent memory with a improve memory subliminal album or even increasing your normal potential to educate yourself with a subliminal learning mp3.

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Another Parenting Thought

A)    "Your children will become what you are; so be what you want them to be."


David Bly


B)    " A baby is born with a need to be loved - and never outgrows it. "


Frank A. Clark


C)    "Becoming a new parent is a learning experience, you can read all the books, listen to all the advice, but you will find you will grow with your children. They will teach you things you could never read in a book."

 C Lynch